To Write a Book You Have to Let Go of Perfection

The idea of perfection is a noble endeavor. It’s also a pathway to failure. For many aspiring authors working on their first book, the concept of perfectionism appears to be a guiding star, but it soon becomes a major obstacle. 

Perfectionism is defined as setting excessively high standards. It can drive your efforts while simultaneously stifling creativity. While pursuing excellence is commendable, perfectionism can be a death grip of self-doubt and procrastination.

The aim here is to provide insights into the damaging effects of perfectionism on the writing process and offer practical strategies for overcoming it. Writing a book requires that perfectionism be replaced with a mindset of acceptance and resilience, unleashing your creative potential. Through introspection, mindfulness, and a willingness to embrace imperfection, you can transform your writing goals into authenticity, passion, and purpose.

Understanding Perfectionism in Writing

At its core, perfectionism is fueled by deep-seated psychological roots, including a fear of judgment, a fear of failure, and a desire for control. 

 

Fear of Judgment

The fear of judgment gnaws at a writer’s confidence. It comes from a constant worry about how others will perceive the book. Colleagues, friends, family, neighbors, and the general public will all have their opinions, which can be nerve-racking. It can lead to second-guessing, sacrificing your authentic voice, and conforming to perceived expectations. Things like the joy of writing, spontaneity, and creativity get lost in the process. 

Fear of Failure

The fear of failure is a dark shadow that looms large in the mind of the perfectionist. The mere thought of falling short can trigger a cycle of self-doubt and procrastination. In some cases, the fear of failure becomes so overwhelming that writers may abandon projects altogether rather than confront the perceived shame of not meeting those self-imposed standards. 

Desire for Control

The desire for control is common. It is also an illusion. It is a misguided belief that if every word is meticulously crafted and every sentence polished to perfection, writers can overcome the insecurities inherent in the creative process. This desire for control can become an obsessive need to micromanage every aspect of a piece. Yet, the result is to hinder the creative process. Creativity often defies attempts at confinement and rigorous boundaries.

The Pitfalls of Perfectionism in Book Writing

The road to perfection is paved with obstacles and pitfalls, impeding progress and stifling creativity. Here are some dreadful destroyers of creativity: 

 

Creativity Blockage

One of the effects of perfectionism is its ability to block the flow of creativity and stifle book ideas. A common phrase here is “writer’s block.” The fear of producing anything less than perfect can be paralyzing. It leaves the writer staring at a blank page or repeatedly revising the same passages in an endless quest for unattainable perfection.

Procrastination

Perfectionism and procrastination often go hand in hand. Authors who set impossibly high standards for themselves and their work may become overwhelmed. This can lead to procrastination, as writers postpone starting or completing their projects in a misguided attempt to avoid the perceived risk of failure or criticism.

Burnout

As writers pour countless hours into perfecting every sentence and polishing every paragraph, they may find themselves drained of energy and enthusiasm. The joy is gone, and the original motivation to write is lost. Burnout may result in being stuck on that first chapter or a near-finished draft stuffed in a desk. The sheer magnitude of self-imposed standards can stifle even the most talented writer.

Embracing Imperfection - Strategies to Overcome Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be alluring, promising excellence. That allure quickly becomes a trap for writers striving to bring their visions to life, but there are ways to escape it. It’s time to embrace imperfection as a vital part of the writing process. Here are some strategies to help overcome perfectionism and reclaim the joy of writing:

Set Realistic Goals

Great books don’t have to be perfect. Breaking down the writing process into manageable tasks and setting achievable milestones fosters a sense of progress and accomplishment.

The Power of Drafts

Embrace the messy beauty of first drafts. Allow yourself to write without inhibition. Remember that writing is a process of discovery, and each draft brings you closer to uncovering your vision. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Learn from them, and trust the editing process to polish your work to its full potential. Professional editors can help with proofreading and keeping your writing sessions focused on creative writing.

Seek Support, Feedback, and Information

Don’t be afraid to seek feedback from trusted sources early and often. Seek writing tips, listen to podcasts, find good books about how to write a book, or follow published authors on social media. Knowledge is power. First-time writers are wise to reach out to fellow writers or join writing groups, sharing experiences and receiving support and encouragement.

Embrace the Process

Embrace the twists and turns, the moments of inspiration, the surprising insights, and the beauty of the writing process. Celebrate your daily word count, find writing tools, develop templates, and explore writing prompts. Rather than fixating on the entire book, focus on good writing. Develop your writing habits rather than the dream of being a bestselling author.

Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

Take the time to quiet your inner critic and focus on your accomplishments, remembering that small victories count. Treat yourself with kindness and enjoy your own writing style. Your published books will grow from your creativity, not your intensity.

Letting Go and Moving Forward

Letting go of perfectionism is a transformative journey requiring patience, perseverance, and a commitment to embracing imperfection. Here are some practical strategies to help you break the grip of perfectionism and move forward with your creative work:

Embrace Consistency Over Perfection

Focus on consistency, not perfection, in your writing process. Set aside a writing schedule with a dedicated writing space and writing time. You’ll gradually build momentum and overcome the entanglement of perfectionist tendencies. Remember that progress is not always linear. Two steps forward and one back is still progress. Good writers are those who produce actual writing consistently.

Practice Imperfection Daily

Challenge yourself to embrace imperfection in your writing. Set aside time for freewriting or stream-of-consciousness exercises, allowing your thoughts to flow without inhibition. Creativity is more important than a step-by-step quest toward perfection. Find the creative freedom in the imperfections of your own book. 

Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Take time to recognize the effort you’ve put into your writing. Celebrating small wins builds confidence and motivates progress. Joy, confidence, and motivation are powerful antidotes to perfectionism.

Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion. Cultivate a mindset of self-acceptance and forgiveness, knowing that mistakes and setbacks are a part of the learning process, and ultimately create a better book.

Help For Your Imperfect Journey

By letting go of perfection, you can unlock your potential and bring your dreams to life.

It’s time to take the leap and embark on your book-writing journey, and here is a great tool to help. Download our free nonfiction book planner to move from the table of contents to the completed book. Download it here. (provide link when available)

With the support of our planner and the determination to embrace imperfection, nothing is standing in your way.

So, now is the time to write your book. Embrace imperfection, unleash your creativity, and watch as your aspirations take flight. Seize the opportunity to share your voice with the world and start writing today. 

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